It’s the last of our Practical Ways to Practice Self Love series. Did you enact any of our prior weeks’ suggestions? If so, which one(s)? (If you haven’t already, check out Part 1, Part 2, and Part 3!)
We’re wrapping up our series by focusing on one vital element of enacting self-love…
𝐋𝐞𝐭 𝐠𝐨 𝐨𝐟 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐧𝐨 𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫 𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐞𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮.
Attachments can ignite your life and be so deeply healing at times. But just as you consistently need to clean yourself, your pets, or your home, your mind and emotional landscape are also in need of regular maintenance. Without release and renewal, even the attachments that once served a healthy purpose in our lives can become mental, emotional, or spiritual baggage. We often hold on to so much unconsciously–stuff we don’t even realize weighs us down each day. Renew your life and your mind by mindfully sitting down for an hour or two and reflecting on things you can let go of.
Some things you might consider releasing from your life:
Are you doing something (at the detriment of yourself) simply because it’s the way you’ve always done things? It’s okay to change things up to fit your life in a better way. This might pertain to the obvious bad-for-your-body habits such as smoking, excessive drinking and eating junk food, or it might relate to things that are detrimental to your mental health, like mindlessly scrolling, expecting the worst out of every situation or even behavioral patterns such as how you treat others or who you allow in your life.
Dwelling On The Past
Is there something holding you back or taking up your brain space that you can probably let go of? Consider graciously honoring its place in your life and kindly releasing it.
Consider letting go of the fear that comes with what other people think of you. You can’t please everyone no matter what you do. Picture yourself at age 95, thinking back to all the ways you held yourself back trying to live up to other people’s expectations.
The Idea Of Perfection & Comparing Yourself To Others
Most of what we see of others online and in media is highly curated. You are uniquely you–body, mind, and soul. The sooner your embrace that, the happier you’ll be.
It’s true what they say. “Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to keel over.” That doesn’t mean you have to forgive or forget. It just means you get to free up that precious rent in your head for something worth your energy.
No one has ever looked back and said, “I benefited so much from my self-doubt.” In fact, a large majority of people feel they missed out on opportunities and experiences as a result of self-doubt. So take that step, make that leap, do the thing. You can reassess once you’re on the other side, but if you never try, you’ll never know.